Ask Not what Others Can Do for You
Everyone knows Pamela Geller. She is that great soul who has helps those youths, who fear their Muslim families may want to harm them. A more known of her works is the case of Rifqa Barry,
She sent me the emails from one friend from Pakistan, (let us call him Zaheer) asking me to respond to him. I publish a sample of Zaheer’s emails and my response to him, in the hope that it may help others in the same situation.
hope you fine. madam i contact you over a year ago and i told you that time i want to leave islam and want to be atheist i hope you remember and i leave islam but I am still with my muslim family i hate them, but i don’t have choice and they still don’t know about me if they know they kill me its legal in islam.
actually i want just your help and i am useable parson for you i can go anywhere make film for you and what you want then you can explain to world about islam and rule but now i want to move anywhere were i can feel freedom i’m 29 year old but still single coz i don’t wanna marry with a muslim girl and i worry about myself my family many time beat me coz i not perform prayer.
plz i need to move to any non-muslim country so plz tell to anyone who can do something to help me. I can’t say this to any other parson coz i don’t trust anyone.
plz save my life. Is there any parson or organization that can help me? i want to leave this country and live there where not Islamic rules im so upset. Sometime I am thinking about suicide. Plz ma’am plz.
Plz ma’am do something im really upset and i dont wanna live this muslim country anymore i want to live where i can do what i want and here maybe thay kill me i want to annocecd that im not muslim and plz contact with any parson who can help me i return help you about your projact i promise.
So i need just your help plz dont forget me i cant explain how i spend my last year here. i contact you a year ago and that time you told me same thing Plz ma’am do somthing and save my live i want to live free
This is Ali Sina. I am an ex-Muslim from Iran, now living in Canada. I understand your situation. There are millions of people like you suffering in Islamic countries. Many Iranians in Iran feel the same way you do. They don’t believe in Islam and are trapped in a very repressive Islamic country where they can be thrown in jail and killed if discovered.
You wrote to Ms. Geller pleading her to save your life. You say you hate your Muslim family and that if they find out about your disbelief they will kill you, and as the result you are suicidal. I have difficulty to understand this. If life is so precious that your biggest worry is getting killed, why you want to commit suicide? If it is not worth much and you are thinking of ending it why not letting others to help you out?
You say you want to leave Islam. If you don’t believe in Islam you have left it already. Once you stop believing in the lies of Muhammad, you are set free. You no longer fear his bogus deity and his sadistic torture chamber and the rest of his nonsense and stupidity, which have paralyzed the minds of his believers. The chains of his lies are broken. Now it is up to you to step out of his prison of mind. No one can do that for you. We can shed light and break the chains of deception, but it is up to you to stand up and walk out of that prison.
You think Pakistan and your situation with your family is your prison. They are not. The prison is in your mind. Ms. Geller does not have a magic want. She can’t do miracles. She can use legal means and the power of social media to help young Muslims when their lives are in danger. That is all she can do. How can she help you in Pakistan? By what laws can she defend you? She has no clout in that country or any Islamic country. Furthermore, you are a big man. You have to take responsibility for your own life.
We humans suffer mostly because we don’t live in a world of reality. The reality is that you are not the only person living in an Islamic country that wants to escape his condition. Nine out of ten people living in Islamic countries, whether they believe in Islam or not, want to go somewhere else. Many risk their lives and take dangerous trips to take refuge where there is more opportunity. Can we possibly help all these people?
Assuming we could, would that be the solution? Can we accommodate millions of apostates in non-Muslim countries? What about the religious minorities? They are also being persecuted. Every day more people are leaving Islam. In Iran alone, tens of millions of people have stopped believing in Islam. Can we send all these people a ticket to a western country?
This is not the way to do it. We want to get rid of Islam and transform the Islamic countries to free countries were all the people can pursue life, prosperity and happiness.
Your problems come from your own thinking and you are the only person that can help yourself. Let us analyze your thinking first. You say you hate your Muslim family. Why? Do you hate them because they are Muslim? If this is the only reason then you have missed the point. We don’t leave Islam to hate Muslims.
The truth is that you don’t get along with your family. Most (almost all) families in patriarchal societies are dysfunctional. We are all victims of the nefarious Islamic culture. A society that calls half of its members awrat, which literary means pudenda, something defective, something to hide and be ashamed of, cannot produce healthy individuals. These “defective” members of the society are the mothers and primary educators. When you demean them, the entire society is demeaned. Belittled women have low self-esteem. They cannot raise emotionally healthy sons. Therefore, virtually all Muslim families are dysfunctional and all Muslims are psychologically damaged.
You are not the only victim of Islam. All of us are. Even after we leave this evil religion we remain its victims until the day we die. Eighty percent of human personality is formed during the first 8 years of his or her life. When children are beaten, abused and ignored as it is the norm in all Islamic countries, they become damaged for the rest of their life. To grow emotionally healthy, children need love and attention, which they cannot possibly get when there are half a dozen or more of them in every family. The ideal number of children in a family is two or three. Four is too many. In Muslim families, there are generally half a dozen to a dozen children and if the husband is polygamists, the number of children can reach fifty or more, as was the family of Osama bin Laden. As the result every Muslim is a psychopath. They are all a bunch of sickos, constantly hurting each other and everyone else. They can then go and accumulate two or three doctorates, but their emotional and psychological growth is often stalled at the age of three. Most Muslims, (including ex-Muslims) are emotional dwarfs. We have big heads, but tiny hands and feet. We can intellectualize, but emotionally we are children.
A recent study shows that one in every three Iranians suffers from depression and/or anxiety. These are the root causes of many other psychological problems. Those who conducted the study claim the actual number is two out of three, and that in their view most people interviewed were not telling the truth.
Although Islam is a major contributor to this tragedy the reality is that even when we leave Islam we can’t be happy unless we overcome our psychological hangover.
We use anger to overcome our anxiety. This makes us more violent than any other people. It would be foolish to say Islam has nothing to do with it.
We can never be happy unless we restore our emotional health. There are two ways to do that. One is to work on our children and make sure we don’t pass to them our negative beliefs, emotions and feelings that have made us psychological handicaps. In the first eight years of their life children absorb everything uncritically, and everything that they observe becomes their operative system for the rest of their life. This operative system is the sub-conscious mind. Once children pass that age, their personality is formed and there is nothing you can do to change it.
However, once we reach the age of 18 we can change our subconscious mind consciously, through will power and practice. This is a slow process and not easy. Formatting the subconscious mind is like learning a new language. You can learn any language easily when you are a child and speak it fluently and with no accent. You can also learn any language when you are an adult, but this time you have to exert a lot of effort, learn the grammar and the structure of the language and you’ll never be able to speak it as fluently as someone who learned that language in childhood. For our unborn children, there is hope, but for us this is the only way.
How can we reformat our subconscious mind? To do that you have to change your conscious thoughts from negative to positive and charge them with emotions! You have to be persistent. Gradually, the old and negative programming in the subconscious mind is replaced by a new positive one.
There is a law in the universe, discovered by your Hindu ancestors thousands of years ago. It was also discovered by others across the world, independently. This law states that whatever thought you hold in your mind, whether positive or negative, it will manifest itself in reality. Buddha said, “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
What if the mind is full of hate, anger and despair? Well, that is what you get in life. If you have hatred and anger towards your Muslim family or anyone, you can change your country, but your life will stay the same – just as unhappy as it is now. With this much negativity, anger and hate that exude from your emails, you can only attract more negativity, more anger and more hate.
Jesus said, “For whoever has, to him more shall be given, and he will have abundance. But whoever does not have, even what he has shall be taken away from him.”
He was talking about the secret of the universal law of attraction. The universe loathes beggars and complainers. The more you beg and the more you whine the more you attract misery to your life. Our life is the manifestation of our dominant thoughts. In order to chance your life you have to change your thoughts. You have to replace your negative thoughts with joyous and positive thoughts. You can’t hate and expect love in your life? Replace the thoughts of hatred with the thoughts of love if you want happiness.
What you sow is what you reap. Swami Vivekananda said, “We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.” Mahatma Gandhi said, “A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.”
What are your thoughts? What do you think about all day? If what your emails to Ms. Geller are your typical thoughts, you can live a lifetime of unhappiness and your lot will never change. But if you change your thoughts, you can change your destiny.
You are not a teenager who must dependent on your family. We receive many emails from such people. All we can tell them is to focus on their studies. That is the key to their freedom. But you are a 29 years old. Why for Pete’s sake you still live with your family? At this age you should be independent. Go to another city. Live apart. It is very unhealthy for a man in your age to live with his family.
For your life to change, you have to fill your heart with love and gratitude. Nothing attracts more bounty than love and gratitude. I should say nothing else attracts any bounty other than love and gratitude.
Instead of whining and complaining be grateful and give thanks for what the universe has given you. Feel yourself rich and happy. Your positive thoughts will resonate through the universe and the universe echoes back. Replace the resentment in your heart with compassion and love. “Buddha said, “Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.”
Our thoughts not only change our inner world, they also change the outer world. In the words of Confucius, “The more man meditates upon good thoughts the better will be his world and the world at large.” Our collective thoughts affect the situation in the world. One and a half billion Muslims emit thoughts of hate. This negativity results in disharmony, wars, revolutions, economic upheavals, diseases, poverty and chaos. What difference it will make if we change our religion and still hold on to hate? We can’t change our lives by just changing our names. We have to change our thoughts before we can change our world. Your happiness depends on the content of your thoughts. Take control of your thought and you will take control of your life.
To plagiarize John F. Kenedy, ask not what others can do for you. Ask what you can do for others. This is the key to happiness.
I followed happiness to make her mine,
Past towering oak and swinging ivy vine.
She fled, I chased, over slanting hill and dale,
Over fields and meadows, in the purpling vale.
Pursuing rapidly over dashing stream,
I scaled dizzy cliffs where the eagles scream;
I traversed swiftly every land and sea,
But always happiness eluded me.
Exhausted, fainting, I pursued no more,
But sank to rest upon the barren shore.
One came and asked for food, and one for alms;
I placed the bread and gold in bony palms;
One came for sympathy, and one for rest;
I shared with every needy one my best;
When lo! sweet Happiness, with form divine,
Stood by me, whispering softly, “I am thine.”
There are millions of people who are in the same or worse predicaments than yours. It is impossible for us to help everyone. Only you can help yourself. Think of your vicissitudes as a blessing for you to grow.
Below you find a few links. Listen to them every day. They can change your life. Don’t give up and don’t expect immediate result. You need to change your thoughts. Your present thoughts are the result of 29 years of negative thinking. You can’t change them overnight. Listen to them for at least 30 days before you can see any result. Once you see result, continue and read and listen to similar talks. The lessons in these talks will teach you how to take control of your thoughts and once you do that you can take control of your life. You can have everything you want. Your freedom, your happiness and your future are in your own hands. Your life is what your thoughts make it.
These are just a few. You can find more audios like these on Youtube. Do this for 30 days until your subconscious mind starts changing. Once that happens, you will begin to see the change in your life.