Marrying a Muslim Man
I hope you have the time to read my email.I found about you when i was googling “i dont want my kids to be muslim” and i found a christian woman that was asking for your help in a similar case like mine.
I’m a christian woman from egypt, living in egypt too . My boyfriend is an iraqi guy living in egypt and he is a muslim.we love eachother so much,we really do.i’m sure he loves me even more than i love him.we talked about marriage and i suddenly got scared :/ i dont want my children to be muslims.i know that islam spreads hate and its dangerous , i cant let my own children to grow up disrespecting my religion nd spreading hate and aggression !
i love him though and i dnt know what to do.leaving him is not the best option there :/ i wanna save him.
i’ve been thinking and i told him , when we get married if you have kids i want them to choose their own religion when they’re mature enough
he said let me be straight with you,i’ll do anything to make him grow up as muslims and you shouldnt be trying to change that !
i’m so scared , i love him but i’m scared of him sometimes :/
he is a highly educated guy and all but he believes in islam like we believe the sun has risen today !
i even told him i dnt want kids after i read your answer to that woman’s problem
he said we’ll see about that.
please help me , i want to save him , i dnt know what to do , and i dnt want him to feel like i want him to convert to be a christian or something so that we wont jst back off :
please let me know what you think i should do
i also wanna know can i get to read your book “understanding mohammed” i am afraid i wont find it in book stores here you know since its an islamic country they wouldnt dare to make this available to people .
P.S i volunteer to translate your articles to arabic if you’d like 🙂
My answer to you is the same I gave to Tina http://alisina.org/what-to-do-with-my-muslim-boyfriend/
Don’t marry this Muslim. If you want to be unhappy and have a miserable life, marry him.
This man does not love you. What Muslims feel is not love. Do you know of any other parent who kills their children? Not even animals do that. Muslims do it. Under the influence of Islam, Muslims become something quite different than human.
This Muslim has infatuation for you. This is hormonal not spiritual attraction. Muslim men are needy. Don’t confuse that with love. Love is the child of freedom. If he really loved you he would have respected your freedom to believe in anything you wish. Of course he could reason with you to try to persuade you that his ways are better, but he would never take away your freedom.
You are willing to not have children so they don’t suffer as Muslims. This is a big sacrifice. Of course it is also a wise thing since it would be cruel to bring to world children knowing what kind of life they will have. But why would you want to do such thing?
Furthermore, this Muslim already thinks he can control and manipulate you. He is not listening to what you say. He ignores your views when you say you don’t want to have children and you don’t want them to become Muslim. This is not love.
You girls keep writing to me hoping that I may change my mind and make an exception in your case telling you it is okay to marry your Muslim boyfriend. No it is not okay. Don’t marry him. Leave him. He does not love you. He is infatuated with you. Muslims don’t know the meaning of love. How can they love you when they don’t respect your freedom and views? Look at their families. A Muslim man can marry several wives. How can he pretend to love them? If a man loves one woman he will never think about another woman. Muslims are the only species that will happily kill their children and encourage them to be martyr. How can they love them and murder them?
Muslims are damaged. They are born like others, with the same potential for human feelings, but they lose that through Islamic indoctrination and are transformed into something very evil.
Read the history of the early Islam. Muslims murdered their own kin, brothers, mothers and fathers and proudly said, Islam has changed our hearts.
This is my advice to you. If you want to marry this man, you will do it anyway, but when the time comes that you cry alone in your room and curse yourself for marrying him and throwing away your life just like that, remember that I warned you not to do it.
Love is not permanent. Today you love someone and the next day you don’t feel anything for him or even despise him. Half of the marriages end in divorce and those that survive are mostly loveless. All these people married because they ware madly in love with each other. Compatibility is a major factor in the survival of love and marriage. You and this Muslim are not compatible.
There are so many men you can love. Why marry a Muslim? The very fact that you have written to me shows that your instincts tell you something is wrong with this relationship. Don’t see him again, not even to say goodbye. Don’t respond to his telephone calls. Send him an email and tell him you will not marry a Muslim. Tell him you decided to end it because you realized the marriage with a Muslim will bring you nothing but tragedy and pain.
If he really loves you he should read my book, which I attach. That is the minimum he can do to prove his love for you. If he reads my book he will leave Islam and then he is recovered. It does not matter if he reads the book with closed mind or just to make you happy. As long as he reads it, he will leave Islam. He may lie and not read it but tell you that he has. Muslims are liars, like their prophet. But if he reads my book and remains a Muslim he is truly an evil man. In either case you should leave him. You don’t want to marry a liar or an evil man. However, if he sees the light, which he will if he reads the book, he will be recovered. You can then love him and marry him. As long as he is a Muslim he is possessed by the devil. Shun him. You can send him the link to this page so he knows why you don’t want to have anything to do with him.
The ball is in his court. He can read my book and recover from this demonic disease and have you or he can go to hell.
If you want to translate my articles into Arabic, please do so. But they have to be at least half a dozen so I can create an Arabic chapter of the site.