Married to a Muslim
Dear Ali Sina,
I am young woman married to a muslim man. I am Christian and believe in God. I read number of books about Islam and have a good knowledge about his religion. I can’t accept most of it.. Women rights, slavery, jihad .. I think most of it comes from devil. My husband doesn’t know much but he is calming that he will teach our kids about Islam. How can I convince him that Islam is wrong? Please help me to change him. He is a good person; he really thinks that Islam is good too. He never read a Koran. He is not educated, but no matter what he always says that Islam is right.
What it will be the best method to change him? I really love him and want have kids with him but I don’t want my kids to grow up in Islam. Help me please.
Love is not enough! For any marriage to work there must be compatibility between husband and wife. Without which love will die. All marriages start with love, but over half of them end in divorce and of those that survive, not all are happy.
You and your husband are not compatible. Your marriage is shaky. I strongly recommend you not to bring a child to this world with him. Please have mercy on your future children and don’t condemn them to a life of unhappiness and abuse. Do you really want your daughters to wear hijab and live with the threat of being killed by their father if they fall in love with a non-Muslim? Don’t say your husband is not like that. He is uneducated and does not know anything about Islam and yet he is a devout Muslim who thinks Islam is the best. That is the profile.
Muslims are born like all other people. They have the same human feelings that others have. But under Islam they are transformed into something very nasty. Under the influence of this faith they become capable of killing their own children and blowing up strangers. If you underestimate the devastating power of this demonic faith on Muslims you are setting yourself up for disaster.
Yes, Islam is of the Devil and your husband is a Devil worshipper. As longs as his loyalty is to Devil you should not have children with him and be ready to leave him. If you don’t, you will regret.
Your husband is not abusive to you yet. That can and will most likely change once children come aboard. Now he is insecure and knows little is binding you to him. Once children are born he will reveal his real persona. So please do not assume this man will be the same forever. He will become demanding and will demean you and your faith. He will call you stupid and will project all his own shortcomings and flaws on you.
Muslim men want an obedient wife. That is their idea of a good marriage, where they are the lord and their wife is their slave. If that is not your idea of marriage, don’t marry a Muslim man.
You may ask how I can say these things about a person I don’t know. I am not describing him as a person. I am describing him as a Muslim. I know Islam and I know Islamic thinking.
Now you want to give this man a chance and do your best to rescue him from his satanic religion. That is noble. Do whatever you can. But like a person who wants to help someone drowning, you must anchor yourself to a safe place and be ready to let him go if your own life is put in danger. Yes he is a victim but he is also a willing participant. At the end it is up to him to rescue himself. If there is no will you can’t do much. Let him go and save yourself.
I have written a book that will help every Muslim see the light. If you can convince your husband to read it, he will leave Islam. Then you are dealing with a real human who is not possessed. If he is a good person, as you say, you will have a happy marriage with him. If he refuses to read my book, leave him. This man is blind and will only bring sorrow to your life.
Muslims don’t like to read anything written against Islam. Actually most of them don’t read anything at all. 90% of Muslims read less than five books in their entire life. One of them is Quran which is not read to understand but is chanted for thawab. The challenge is to persuade them to read. I don’t care whether they read my book with preconception, with closed mind, or with the intention to find fault with it. In fact I encourage them to read it critically and never accept anything I say if I have not provided ample evidence. As long as they read it and pay attention to what they read, they will leave Islam.
Understanding Muhammad, is available from Amazon.com, but I will send the previous edition of it in PDF to anyone who asks for it. Make it available to him or read it with him. Trick him by promising that you’d convert to Islam if he reads the book with you and convinces you that I am mistaken. He is allowed to consult any Muslim scholar for answers. He will find none. Instead he will be advised not to read the book. He will be threatened with hell fire for doubting and questioning. At the end it is up to him. If he wants to save his marriage with you he must read the book, otherwise pack and leave.
Wish you luck